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What’s going on in a twin flame runner‘s mind? 

Have you met your twin flame but they ran away?

And now you’re going through an emotional roller coaster wondering what they are going through.

Why did they run? What are they thinking about?

I was a twin flame runner so I will be sharing with you what I was going through in the separation stage.

I’m Julia, the other half of twin flame guides, and we are twin flames in union helping people like you achieve union as well.

So even now, three years into Twin Flame Union, I still have conversations with my twin where it’s still hard for him to understand why I ran.

Why would you run from the love of your life? Why would you run from the other half of yourself?

If this is you, keep reading to find out what the twin flame runner goes through!

Twin Flame Runner

If you have a twin flame and they are the ones running away, it can feel very painful on your side as a twin flame chaser. But understanding what a twin flame runner goes through will help you get clarity on the situation. 

You’ll be able to accept the moment, no matter how negative you think it is if you know. 

What Does A Twin Flame Runner Go Through?

There are so many things going on in a twin flame runner’s head when they run away. First, they are overwhelmed by the intensity of the connection and they are very confused. They don’t want to cause you any pain but they are so torn apart.

Why are they confused and what do I mean by “they are torn apart”?

We’ll get into that later but first, let’s talk more about twin flame separation or what’s also called the running and chasing stage.

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Twin Flame Separation

What is the twin flame separation?

It’s when you and your twin flame go through a messy time where you both can’t be together and have to be separated temporarily.

Depending on where you are in your spiritual journey, and how much work you’ve done for yourself, it can take as short as a month or as long as many years.

Know that the separation stage happens for a reason. You both have spiritual things to work on before it’s safe for you to meet again and hopefully next time for union.

Remember that an inner union has to happen before you can have a physical union.

You both have to work on yourselves. You both need to be able to be happy on your own.

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Twin Flame Runner

So the twin flame separation stage can also be called the running and chasing stage. The other one is the one who runs away while the other tries to chase the twin and make the relationship work.

The twin flame chaser is not scared and understands that the other person is the twin flame. The chaser knows that they should be in each other’s lives so they chase.

The twin flame runner is usually the one who is not as far off on their spiritual journey. The connection is too intense and they are not spiritually awake enough to understand what’s going on.

A twin flame relationship is rare and can also be very intense. Your twin is the other half of your soul so he/she is like the mirror of your soul.

Your twin reflects back to you all the parts of yourself, the good and the bad.

If you’re not ready to face the bad parts, it might scare you and cause you to run away.

That’s why the twin flame runner distances his/herself from the twin.

twin flame runner realization

Twin Flame Separation Ending Signs

After the twin flame separation, the next step is the twin flame reunion. This is the final stage of the 8 twin flame stages.

Once you’ve reached this stage, you will be together forever. But what are the signs that the separation stage is almost over?

I used to believe that I needed a partner to feel whole.

Because I was introverted and didn’t have a large social circle, I assumed I needed an outgoing spouse. I assumed I needed a confident partner because I lacked confidence.

Instead of doing the work myself, such as developing my own tribe and growing my confidence and self-esteem, I was looking for a partner to do it for me.

I never felt whole when I was alone until I started working on myself and realized I needed to feel complete first in order to attract my ideal spouse.

twin flame runner suffering

And when I started doing that, my twin flame entered my life at a time when I was at a place where I didn’t even think I needed a partner.

I felt great about myself, my single status, and what I had done. So there was no sense of urgency.

When you have no lack in your life,  you will be able to attain the final stage which is twin flame reunion.

But this is just 1 of the signs. If you want to know all of the signs, read the 7 signs twin flame separation is over

What Does A Twin Flame Runner Go Through?

1: They Are Overwhelmed And Confused

Well, the first thing I can tell you is that they don’t know either. When I was running, that was a very confusing time of my life.

In the separation stage, the difference between what your twin flame is feeling and what you’re feeling is that you’re probably feeling a lot of anger, sadness, confusion, and other very strong emotions.

While the runner is denying and putting aside their feelings in a box, pretending they’re not there because they’re so full of anxiety, fear, and lack of understanding.

twin flame runner symptoms

The truth is that most twin flame runners have not come as far in their spiritual journey as the twin flame runners.

Usually, they don’t know the reason why they are running. I didn’t know at the time that I was a twin flame runner.

I had my suspicions that Steph could be my twin flame but at that time, that was just an ancient myth that I wasn’t sure existed.

This was because I had no other people in my life who were twin flames.

So running is usually not a conscious decision on the twin flame runners’ part.

2: They Don’t Want To Cause You Any Pain

twin flame patience

Having your twin flame run from you causes a lot of low vibration and pain but what I want you to know is that their unconditional love for you never stops.

You are married on higher dimensions, anyway. It’s just in the 3D that there’s a little bit of a mess because we have egos, right?

If that statement didn’t make much sense to you, I discuss this more in this article called, does my twin flame feel what I feel?

Your twin flame doesn’t actually want to cause you any pain. I know that’s hard to believe, but they don’t.

They care about you so much but they are just so torn apart.

The twin flame runner loves you and doesn’t want to hurt you but their life path calls for a period of separation.

It’s really hard when your soul wants something but the universe is calling you to do something else for the moment.

If they had a choice, they would stay. It’s confusing for them and they don’t understand but deep in their soul, they know that it’s what’s best for both of you and so they’re just following the signs of the universe.

twin flame longing and pull

3: They Think About You All The Time

Since they might not be texting you or calling you, then it might appear that they’re not thinking about you.

But that’s not true. I was thinking about my twin flame every single day during the separation stage.

I was trying so hard not to contact my twin flame because my intuition is telling me not to.

My intuition was telling me that I needed the space and that I needed to distance myself from him.

This doesn’t mean that I don’t care about what he feels. I’m just following what my gut was telling me.

I really felt like if I returned now, it won’t do any f us any good. I felt called to be alone and now I know why.

twin flame desire

I needed to work on myself. I needed to learn how to love myself because it’s impossible to love someone else if I don’t even know how to do that for myself.

When you love yourself, that’s when you can overflow.

“Does my twin flame miss me?”

If your twin flame runner is not contacting you, know that they are always thinking about you. They’re just choosing themselves for now because that’s where their path is leading them at the moment.

Once they’ve done the work on themselves, they will be able to embrace the union fully and you will both have a harmonious life together.

twin flame chemistry


Can Your Twin Flame Love Someone Else?

If you’re in separation from your flame, they might be with someone else. And yes, it is possible for them to love someone else. They can even have kids with them and marry them.

But even if this happens, the love they feel for them can never ever be stronger than the love they have for you. It’s an unconditional love that you can only feel for someone who is of the same soul as you.

What Happens When The Twin Flame Chaser Stops Chasing The Runner?

You need to stop chasing because when you stop chasing, the runner has nothing more to run from. That’s what happened to me and Stefan.

He stopped chasing early on. He stopped sending me lots of text messages and all that gave me space. So focus on yourself during the separation stage and that is going to help attract your twin flame back faster.

How Many Twin Flames Do You Have In Your Life?

You only have one twin flame or none at all. Some people have no twin flame. So this differs from soulmates and karmic relationships.

You can have several karmic relationships and also several soulmates. Soulmates also don’t have to be romantic. It can be a family member or friend, while twin flames are always romantic.

If you want to learn how to speed up your union with your twin flame, then check out our free webinar on how to end the separation stage.

what does the twin flame runner go through?

What Does The Twin Flame Runner Go Through?

So, what does the twin flame runner really go through?

When your twin flame runs away, he/she is going through a very confusing time.

They are overwhelmed by the intensity of the connection and they don’t understand what to make of it. 

Their egos tell them to run away because it doesn’t make sense. The connection is just too weird.

It’s not their intention to cause you any pain even though it may feel like that’s the case. They are just so torn apart.

They want to be with you but at the moment, their path is leading them to separate themselves from the relationship.

This is why I say that the twin flame runner is usually not as far off in their spiritual journey.

The twin flame runner has to do some more work on themselves and go through the twin flame runner awakening stages. 

They both need to grow more separately before reaching the final stage, which is the twin flame reunion.

When they’ve reached this stage, they will then be together forever. There may be some arguments, of course.

It’s part of human life. But t won’t be as intense and their relationships will be usually harmonious.

Now you’ve learned what a twin flame runner goes through. What are your feelings about this? How’s it going with your journey? Do you feel like you’re reaching an inner union?

I’d love to hear your comments below. Have a beautiful day.

By the way, if you want to know more about where you are on your spiritual journey, I recommend taking this free numerology reading.