The twin flame runner chaser stage has been thought of as the ‘worst’ of the 8 twin flame stages.
So what’s going on here?
You’ve read a few twin flame signs and you think you might have a twin flame in this lifetime.
You’ve got excited, maybe you’ve even MET and become intimate with your twin, but then what’s happened? Here’s what we’ll cover in this article:
- Why do twin flames run away?
- What is the runner and chaser stage?
- Will twin flames that run come back?
- What to do when your twin flame runs away
- How to get your twin flame back
- Does the twin flame runner love the chaser?
- How does the twin flame runner feel?
- What happens when the chaser stops chasing?
So let’s begin:
They’ve run away.
And you’ve resorted to googling things like:
- What is the twin flame runner
- My twin flame ran away
- Why has my twin flame run away
- My twin flame has left me
What does it all mean?
More importantly, why has your twin flame run away?
Why Do Twin Flames Run Away?
Twin flames can run away because they’re scared about the intensity of the connection. Maybe they get intimidated, pushed away, or old wounds have been brought up.
It could be one of a number of reasons, but it happens to most twin flame couples.
It’s not something to be worried or scared of, but it can suck when you’re IN it. This is because often, the running stage happens AFTER you’ve met your twin, and become intimate with them.
This means you’re ready for a relationship usually, but they’ve run away. It’s usually the MASCULINE who runs away, but it could be either of you. It could even be BOTH of you that run away actually!
What is the runner and chaser stage?
The runner and chaser stage happens like this:
You meet your twin flame, connect quickly, and become close. Maybe you’ll even go on a few dates, become sexual or get together and become a couple.
But then, one of you will start to become scared, or feel like the connection is too intense too quickly. And so they’ll run away in one or more ways. Running away doesn’t always mean they’ll LEAVE the relationship.
It could mean:
- They turn to distractions like drugs or alcohol
- They just want to spend less time with you
- They feel overwhelmed when you’re together
- They distance themselves emotionally from you
What it does NOT mean:
- They cheat on you
- They beat you
- They abuse you in any way, mentally or physically
If you experience any of the above things, it’s probably not your twin flame.
There’s no excuse for those behaviours, in any relationship.
Especially not in a twin flame one. In a twin flame relationship, they would never hurt you or cheat on you. It’s not in their nature because they’re part of you.
So don’t let the twin flame terminology and concept give them an excuse for unacceptable behaviour. But that being said, they might feel overwhelmed and distance themselves from you a little bit.
They might fully leave the relationship and move away, sometimes physically to another country. This is really common actually, BUT it can be changed. Often, this running stage is a result of you or them not having done enough work on themselves prior to meeting.
There are some very simple ways of raising your vibrations (Check out our vibration raising ebook guide) in order to attract and STAY WITH your twin flame.
The twin flame runner chaser stage could last for a few days, weeks, or even YEARS. In fact the LENGTH of the running stage can depend on what work you’re doing on yourself. We’ll get to that very soon.
Twin flames that run will come back?
Twin flames that run away often DO come back, if they’re your twin flame. This means there’s not really any reason to CHASE your twin flame, because they WILL come back to you if they’re your twin flame in the first place.
An important point here though, is that you should continue to work on yourself throughout this entire process. If you put in the work and raise your vibrations then it’s more likely they’ll come back to you SOONER. This can be changed and divine timing is more or less a myth.
What to do when your twin flame runs away
When your twin flame runs away there are a number of things you can DO about it.
But don’t think that just by doing these things, it’s guaranteed that your twin flame will come back to you. there are a number of things to consider, for example:
- They might not BE your twin flame
- You might not be theirs
- You might have lots of work to do on yourself before meeting
But if you’re sure they ARE your twin flame (it’s been confirmed by a legit psychic and you share several of the signs) then you can do some things to get them BACK.
1: Raise your frequency
If your frequency is high enough, you’ll reunite with your twin flame. Work you do on YOURSELF also affects your twin flame. This is because you’re entangled with them at the quantum level.
Your particles are linked, over space and time.
So the work you do on yourself can help your partner become higher vibration. When the two of you are high enough vibrationally, you’ll meet and reunite.
We have an ebook showing several ways to raise your vibrations to attract your twin flame. Go through that and try and practice as many of the things as you can. This will hep you attract your twin flame and reunite FASTER.
Here’s a video we made showing you some POWERFUL ways to RAISE your vibrations easily:
2: Don’t panic, relax
It’s easy to panic with this sort of thing. If you know your twin flame has run away, and they’re with someone else for example. But don’t think of it like that. It’s easy to get attached to the physical realm, and worry about things like that.
It makes sense too because you KNOW they’re your twin flame and that you two should be together, so why are they with someone else?
The separation phase can last a few months as it did for us. However, it’s not uncommon for it to last for YEARS if they or you had many blocks and wounds that needed clearing up, and lots of work that needed doing on yourselves.
It really depends on how much self love you’ve both been practicing, past life wounds, and what your vibrational levels are. What makes it really confusing is how many people latch onto one person in particular that they THINK is their twin flame, when they’re really not.
Maybe they’re a false twin flame, or just NOT a twin flame connection at all.
And this can be confusing because you’ll start asking things like ‘why aren’t they coming back to me’ and so on. Well, if they are your twin flame, and you’re working on yourself, they WILL come back to you. They’ll be just as drawn to you as you are to them.
But if they’re off with someone else, not even thinking about you or messaging you for many years, DESPITE you doing lots of work on yourself and stepping into your purpose, they might NOT be your twin flame to begin with.
3: Be Open To The Signs
One thing we do want to mention, is that you should be very open to the signs.
We’re not talking about the signs that you HAVE a twin flame here, this is something else. There are several signs that the universe will give you, that can guide you and help you realise that you should reunite with your twin flame soon.
If you really pay attention and stay open to the signs they’re all around you.
For example:
When me and Julia were going to meet and reunite, there were signs that we should both go to Spain. It might be a subtle thing like an advert, a sudden urge, or it might be a film you’re watching has a scene that sends a particular message to you.
Just be more OPEN to the signs, and you’ll be more likely to be GUIDED by the universe to be in the right place at the right time.
Does the twin flame runner love the chaser?
Yes! If they’re your twin flame.
Many people who KNOW about the twin flame concept can tend to latch onto people that aren’t their twin flame, and assume they’re just in the running stage. This is misleading.
If you’re SURE they’re your twin flame, and they’ve run away, then yes they still love you. They MUST love you, because you’re them and they are you. You’re connected at the soul level, and always together in the 5D. So they always love you, and always have.
But if they’re not your twin flame, then they might not love you and have moved on. Especially if they’ve run off with someone else! But if you’re sure you’re twin flames then you both love each other, and you always have.
How does the twin flame runner feel?
The twin flame runner often just feels scared and vulnerable. It’s often just that they’re running from themselves. Here’s a video Julia made explaining HOW the runner felt during the running stage:
When twin flames meet, they bring up flaws and insecurities in each other. If they had lots of insecurities, it’s likely that you brought them up and that they were just running from having to deal with those!
Or they could just be running from the connection because it’s intense and overwhelming. It can be described as a relationship so deep and raw that it feels like they’re directly looking into your soul.
This can be very intense, especially if you’ve literally just MET them in physical reality. But it feels like you’ve known them for many lifetimes. If they’ve not even been aware of the twin flame concept, and they suddenly meet someone like this…
Someone who they feel they’ve known for many lifetimes…
It can lead to many questions.
It might make them re-think their entire view on reality, life and what happens when we die. So that can be a very intense experience for some people and THAT can be the cause or the reason for the running stage.
But here’s the thing:
If that is the reason they’ve run away, it’s HIGHLY likely they’ll be thinking about you constantly. They won’t be able to get the connection or the idea of you out of their heads, no matter how hard they try. And for that reason, it’s just a matter of time before they start to understand the importance of having met you.
What happens when the chaser stops chasing?
When the chaser stops chasing the runner, nothing really changes.
The runner still needs to come to terms with the connection on their own. The chaser can’t do much about that by contacting the runner. In fact, the chaser SHOULD stop chasing!
Here’s what the chaser should do, to reunite faster:
Work on yourself. Heal your wounds, step into your purpose, and be VERY open to signs and nudges from the universe as to what to do next. Do those things, and the runner WILL also be affected! Even if they’re married to someone else.
But if you keep chasing them, using the energy of ‘lack’ and desperation, that will only push them away even more. You have to let them go, in order for them to come back to you. This is something which plays out time and time again in stories we’ve heard.
It’s when the chaser stops chasing that the runner starts to come back!
Should You Contact Your Twin During The Running/Separation Stage?
A common question we get is:
If you message, reach out to, or contact your twin during the running phase, does it contradict the surrendering or a letting letting go of the outcome?
I think it’s a really, really good question.
Because it’s easy to misinterpret this. You’ve read about other twin flame guides who have been advising their followers to actively message or go and meet their twins.
It’s a controversial thing because on the one hand you want to in some way, be in contact with them, you know, you want to talk to them and like have an open channel of communication..
But at the same time, you don’t want to harass them, because that’s just going to push them away even further.
If you were in separation in the running stage or whatever, that’s for a reason, because they need to, you need to one or both of you needs to heal and do work on yourself in some way.
Here’s what you should do:
Visualise Union, But Don’t FORCE It
Visualize being back in union, or if you’ve never met them, visualize a person’s thats your twin flame and you being in happy reunion, but don’t try to reach out to them too much or at all.
You’ve got to consider:
Firstly, they might not be your twin flame, that’s a possibility.
So in that case you don’t want to like try and harass them and force anything, because they might not be your twin flame.
And secondly, if they are, then you are in the separation stage for a reason, you need to work on yourself because they might not be your twin flame that as a possibility, don’t fixate specifically on one person and like become obsessive over them.
I think instead just visualize a happy reunion with your twin flame.
IIt’s very normal for you to think about your twin flame. Of course, it’s the other part of your soul. You’re going to, to think about them. I love that. It’s very natural and that’s not nothing you should be worried about, but don’t, don’t stop your twin flame. Give them some space.
Find A Balance, Don’t Be Weird!
We made sure we had a bit of contact in the separation stage.
We still texted, but, if they’re saying they need space, give them space… be very respectful of your twin flames boundaries.
It’s important to find a balance.
During OUR separation stage, we were talking, but we weren’t showing up at each other’s gyms or knocking on each others doors.
We weren’t like random me turning up at work and you know, cause I felt like they would have pushed that would have pushed us away, because we needed time during that, during that period to be alone and be like welcome ourselves..
To heal.
So give you twin space to heal…
Continue doing your inner work.
How can I get my twin flame back?
Like we’ve said in this post, there are things you can do that will bring your twin flame BACK to you.
If you raise your vibrations, work on yourself, and step into your purpose, it will happen. That being said, there are some simple things you can do that will make sure they come back to you faster.
We’ve put together a detailed course called the Twin Flame Reunion Fast Track, which shows you a multistep plan that will help attract your twin flame. It will bring you into reunion much faster. The work you do on yourself following this course will also affect your twin flame.
Here’s some of what you’ll learn in the course:
- The 7 step plan to attract and reunite with your twin flame
- How to MAINTAIN the relationship once you’ve reunited, and stay together forever, happily
- The CRITICAL mistakes people make when looking for or trying to attract their twin flames
- The perfect morning routine for attracting your twin flame
- And LOADS more (seriously, this course is PACKED with information)
They’ll be drawn to you and might even reach out to you and say they’ve felt compelled to contact you for some time. Try it out and see how you get on!
